Updated: Jul 23
Many of the “hats” we wear in life come with their own list of things to do. Being a wife and a mother (and oftentimes working outside the home too) can fill our days with an unrelenting schedule of work, errands, cooking, household chores, school, and church activities. The list goes on and on and on. Many of these are just part of the job, so to speak, and we have to trust God for His grace and help to accomplish with excellence all that is set before us in these roles. It is important to note, however, that sometimes we cause our own overwhelming situations because we just don’t know how to say no. If you have ever been tempted to overcommit, read on.
When you are faced with the opportunity (or you are feeling obligated or pressured) to commit to something new, consider these 4 thoughts:
1. Seek God for His plan — for each day of your life as well as for your life and family in general.
- Ask God if this new thing is right for you at this time. (This works with the day-to-day stuff too, not just the big stuff!) When He answers, listen and obey.
- Is what you are thinking about committing to important to Him? Is it part of His plan for you and your family? What’s your motivation for taking on something new? Will you have to compromise in another area to take on this new commitment?
2. Know your limitations.
We all have different gifts and abilities, and something that someone else can do with ease may stress you (or me) out completely! Refuse to compare yourself with others, and stand your ground when you know that a new commitment will be wrong for you or your family.
3. Don’t feel guilty over not “doing it all.”
God doesn’t want you (or your kids) to do everything. He wants you to obey His plan and purpose for your life. That is the place where you will find real peace and fulfillment.
4. Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should do it.
Just because it's a good thing doesn't mean it's necessarily God's best for you or your family at this particular time. Sometimes it’s OK to just say no!