What do boundaries mean to you? Is it a challenge or one you've found victory in? Listen to friends (Host Staci McKee with Mardelle Thomas and Jennifer Welch) explore the definition and what it looks like in practical life experiences with relationships.
When setting boundaries you first need to make a request, if the request isn't met then a boundary needs to be set that is right for you.
What does boundaries mean to you?
“A boundary is a choice that I make for myself that protects my inner peace. It keeps my mind in a safe place and it protects me from people, places, and things that would otherwise distract me from living my best life in Christ.” -Staci
“A boundary to me is simply where I end and another person begins. It’s a separation of what I own; whether it's my feelings, emotions, my healing process, my experiences. And what I don’t own, which is another person's emotions, responses, feelings, or choices.” - Jennifer
“A boundary is not to get another person to behave in a way that will make us feel peaceful, or whole, or happy. Boundaries are way less about other people and are more about us.” -Mardelle
How do you know you need to set boundaries? When you feel...
-Lack of Peace
-Complaining about a person or situation over and over again
This is why the Father loves me - because I lay down my life, so that I may take it back again. No one takes it away from me, but I lay it down of my own free will. I have the authority to lay it down, and I have the authority to take it back again. This commandment I received from my Father.
John 10:17-18 NET
Start practicing setting boundaries with safe people.
You may need help from a professional like a counselor when setting boundaries.
“I never really was able to set and keep boundaries in my life because I had identity problems. Once we know who we are we don’t have to apologize to people for saying this is not right for me.” - Mardelle
“Continue being in a place of love when setting boundaries. It takes an attitude and a heart posture of love for another person and for yourself, it’s loving others and loving yourself.” -Jennifer